From People-Pleaser to Empowered Therapist: My Journey to Helping Women Reclaim Their Lives
Meet Nicole
I’m Nicole Byrne, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in Pasadena, California. I work with high-achieving, emotionally attuned women across California and Nevada—offering online therapy that’s compassionate, grounded, and real.
I specialize in helping women who feel overwhelmed, anxious, or burnt out—women who are praised for being strong and dependable, even while quietly unraveling inside. I know what that’s like, because I’ve lived it too.
My Healing Journey
My path to becoming a therapist began with my own healing. In my late teens and early twenties, I started therapy for the first time and met a few incredible clinicians who helped me reconnect with parts of myself I had long ignored.
That experience was life-changing. It taught me to be curious rather than furious, to relate to my pain with care instead of criticism, and to shift from feeling “not enough” to knowing I am worthy—mess and all.
My journey hasn’t been linear. It’s been full of detours, discoveries, and growth. And that’s exactly how healing works. It’s why I believe therapy isn’t just a place to talk—it’s a space to be real, build insight, and begin living in a way that actually feels like you again.
I’m Intentional
As a mom of two and an empathic introvert, I know what it’s like to give so much of yourself that burnout feels inevitable. I’ve spent much of my life as a nurturer—someone who notices, cares, and holds space for others.
But I’ve also learned the hard way that you can’t pour from an empty cup.
I’m a recovering people-pleaser and rule-follower who once believed self-sacrifice was just part of being “a good person.” Over time, I’ve discovered that prioritizing your own well-being isn’t selfish—it’s essential.
Whether it’s hiking, eating yummy food, laughing with my kids, or connecting with friends, I’ve learned to create space for what truly matters: my energy, my joy, my growth. And that’s the kind of space I now help others create in therapy—so you can stop running on empty and start living in alignment with who you are.
Let’s Work Together:
If you’re ready to move from merely surviving to truly thriving, I’m here to support you.
I’ve always believed that being a therapist means being a lifelong learner. My work is deeply informed by evidence-based modalities—and by my commitment to staying current, curious, and connected to the real struggles my clients face.
Degrees
BA in Sociology with an emphasis in social services, Minor in Spanish. UC Davis 2006
MA in Counseling Psychology, John F. Kennedy University, 2013
Licensure
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #90540 California, #1026 Nevada
Certifications
Trained in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy (EMDR), January 2020 | Dr. Philip Manfield
Trained in Flash Technique, February 2020, Advanced Trained in June 2020 | Dr. Philip Manfield
Trained in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Immersion (ACT), January 2023 | Dr. Steven Hayes
Trained in Trauma Focused ACT, June 2024 | Dr. Russ Harris
Trained in ACT for Perfectionism and People Pleasing, February 2025 | Dr. Russ Harris
Modalities
Therapy with me is grounded in evidence-based practices that help you not just understand what’s going on—but actually shift it. Here's a look at how we might work together:
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT): Helps you get clear on your values, step back from self-critical thoughts, and start living with more freedom and intention.
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR):A powerful tool for processing and releasing the emotional charge of past traumas—so they no longer hijack your present.
Flash Technique: A gentle, effective approach for reducing trauma-related distress—especially helpful when the pain feels too big to touch directly.
Mindfulness and DBT: Practical tools for staying grounded, regulating emotions, and navigating anxious, self-critical thought patterns with more ease.
Rates
50-minutes
Individual Therapy: $250
90-minutes
Extended Therapy: $375
Therapy is an investment in your emotional well-being—and your ability to show up more fully in your life, relationships, and work. I aim to make our work together both meaningful and effective, grounded in your goals and what you want to change.
Most of my clients attend weekly sessions and find therapy most impactful when they commit to at least fifteen sessions. From there, we adjust based on your needs and progress. Most of my clients stay for approximately one year, others find value in longer-term work.
I understand this is a financial commitment—and I also know the cost of staying stuck can be just as real. We’ll work together to make sure therapy feels purposeful and supportive every step of the way.
FAQs
+ I always put everyone else first — can therapy really help with that?
Yes. And not just in a “set better boundaries” kind of way — but in a deep, healing, nervous-system-reset kind of way. Together, we’ll untangle the guilt, the pressure, and the fear of letting others down so you can start showing up for yourself without feeling like you’re abandoning everyone else. 👉 Learn more about People-Pleasing Therapy
+ I’m burned out, but I don’t know how to slow down — what now?
Support is here for the in-between — when you’re functioning, but barely holding it together. You don’t have to wait until everything collapses to get support. Together, we’ll create space to slow down, reflect, and actually rebuild your capacity — without throwing away everything you care about. 👉 Learn more about Burnout Therapy
+ I feel like I’m failing at everything — especially as a mom. Is that something we can work on?
Absolutely. If you’re stuck in the loop of exhaustion, resentment, guilt, and never-enoughness… you’re not alone. This kind of burnout is real — and we’ll work together to help you find relief, reconnect with yourself, and redefine what thriving actually looks like for you (not just what Instagram says it should). 👉 Learn more about Mom Burnout Therapy
+ What can I expect from online therapy?
Online therapy feels a lot like in-person therapy — just more flexible. We’ll meet over secure video, and you’ll have the same support, tools, and space for honesty that you’d have in an office setting.
You can expect: ✨ A safe, judgment-free space to talk openly ✨ Support for both your mind and nervous system ✨ Practical strategies you can use right away ✨ A pace that feels doable, not overwhelming
Clients are often surprised by how connected and effective online therapy feels — especially once they realize they don’t have to battle traffic or rearrange their whole day just to get support. 👉 Schedule a Consult
+ How do I get started?
Getting started is simple: 1️⃣ Schedule a free 20-minute consultation. 2️⃣ We’ll talk through what’s bringing you to therapy and what support could look like. 3️⃣ If it feels like a good fit, we’ll set up your first session and get you started on your path toward feeling more grounded, connected, and at ease.
You don’t have to have it all figured out before reaching out — that’s what therapy is for. 💛