Why being hard on yourself isn’t helping (and what to try instead)
If you're a high-achieving woman who motivates herself through self-criticism, this video is for you. Discover how a simple ACT metaphor—comparing a harsh coach to a compassionate one—can help you break the burnout cycle, shift your inner dialogue, and still stay accountable… without the exhaustion.

The Attention Spotlight: A Powerful ACT Metaphor for Managing Difficult Thoughts

Do you ever find yourself battling those annoying thoughts that leave you spiraling? The anxious thoughts that pop up uninvited and then stick around no matter how hard you try to push them away. Between work, relationships, family, and life’s endless to-do list, many high-achieving women find themselves in a daily tug-of-war—with zero time to come up for air.. Over time, the overwhelm builds: irritability, resentment, low patience… and that sense that you're about to snap. I'm sharing something called the "Attention Spotlight" metaphor that demonstrates why trying to fight against unwanted thoughts is like trying to win an argument with a toddler - it just makes everything worse! Instead, I'll show you a different approach that works. Think of it as having a secret remote control for your attention that lets you decide what gets the spotlight in your mind, without having to wage war against your own thoughts.

This video is part of my ACT Metaphors That Transform series, created for high-achieving women in California and Nevada who are ready to live with more clarity, ease, and emotional balance.

In this first video of my "ACT Metaphors That Transform" series, I'm introducing you to the power of metaphors in therapy - especially for those of us who are constantly doing too much for everyone else! There's something special about using metaphors to grow our perspective - they're tools that have helped my clients create REAL change when nothing else worked.

It’s true…so many of us have been taught to stuff our emotions and just ‘push through.’ If you’re feeling burnt out, disconnected, or constantly exhausted, this might be why. Ignoring emotions takes a toll on our mental health, relationships, and even physical well-being. Join me as we explore why we ignore our emotions, the impact it has, and how recognizing this can be the first step toward a more fulfilling and balanced life.

Feeling exhausted and overwhelmed? Burnout can leave you running on empty, but the good news is that there’s a way to move beyond burnout and thrive long-term. In this video, I’ll share actionable strategies to help you not just recover from burnout, but build a life where you can thrive with greater balance and fulfillment.

We’re diving into a powerful concept: using emotions as a guide. Instead of ignoring or suppressing our feelings, we can learn to listen and understand the valuable messages they bring. Emotions aren’t obstacles; they’re like an internal GPS, offering insights that can lead to greater self-awareness and purpose.

Why does setting boundaries feel so terrifying—even when you want to?
For many high-achieving, emotionally attuned women, people-pleasing isn’t just about being nice. It’s about staying safe.

In this video, I explore why your nervous system may panic when others are upset, and how you can begin to build emotional safety—not just grit—so you can set boundaries without guilt or fear.

The Bowl of Kindness – A Self-Compassion Practice for When You're Your Own Worst Critic

Do you find yourself constantly second-guessing your decisions, replaying your mistakes, or feeling like you're never quite "enough"? You're not alone — and there’s a way to get unstuck. In this short video, I share The Bowl of Kindness, a metaphor from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) that helps you soften your inner dialogue and treat yourself with the same compassion you so easily give others.

Whether you’re navigating burnout, perfectionism, or the weight of high expectations, this tool can help you anchor in kindness and build a more supportive relationship with yourself.

This video is part of my ACT Metaphors That Transform series, created for high-achieving women in California and Nevada who are ready to live with more clarity, ease, and emotional balance.

We all wrestle with hard thoughts and feelings, like worry, self-doubt, and regret. We're inclined to stuff it away, stop thinking about it, push through and simply look on the bright side. However, the hard stuff doesn't disappear - the more we push it away the harder we struggle. In this video, I’m sharing one of my favorite ACT metaphors: Pushing the Paper Away. It's a simple yet powerful visual that shows why avoiding painful thoughts can actually make them louder—and what you can do instead.

This video is part of my ACT Metaphors That Transform series, created for high-achieving women in California and Nevada who are ready to live with more clarity, ease, and emotional balance.

High-achieving friends, I know you set a high bar for yourself and push hard to achieve it. You can be hard on yourself - it helps you succeed. You are remarkable, you are striving, and you are going places. But are you too self critical, or are you up for a pivot if you need to be? Watch to learn about the metaphor of who you're choosing to quarantine with, or your inner voice, and how shifting from self criticism to kindness will not only make you more effective but also more content.

This video is part of my ACT Metaphors That Transform series, created for high-achieving women in California and Nevada who are ready to live with more clarity, ease, and emotional balance.

Are you doing all the things, all the time? Well then, you’re right to be feeling overwhelmed, am I right? Boundaries are sooo stinkin hard to set, yet they’re so valuable to help you flourish. In today’s video, I’m sharing simple yet effective tips to help you protect your time, energy, and mental well-being. Burnout doesn’t have to be your reality, I promise!

Depletion, exhaustion, overwhelm - yes, we’re talking about burn out. In this video, I explain the 3 key signs of burnout—constant fatigue, loss of focus, and emotional detachment. I also share actionable tips to kickstart your burnout recovery journey.