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Not sure where to begin? These are my most popular posts on boundaries, burnout, and people-pleasing.
You know you're over-functioning. You can see the pattern clear as day. So why can't you stop? The answer isn't related to willpower. Instead, it's about what your nervous system learned to keep you safe. And changing it requires more than insight alone.
I didn't realize how deep my over-functioning had gotten until I noticed a pattern: I'd snap at my kids over things that didn't matter, then spiral with guilt. Even as a therapist who specializes in this, I was missing the subtle signs. Here are 10 more signs of over-functioning - the ones you're probably missing too.
For years, I've talked about people-pleasing. But lately, I've been learning something deeper: people-pleasing isn't always just a pattern. Sometimes, it's a trauma response. And when that's the case? We call it fawning.